Pretty Vulgar

No matter how many times they say, "Looks don't matter," everybody wants to fix their blemishes, build a perfect body, get a gleaming complexion and commercial-perfect hair. Everyone wants to look good in their clothes and make themselves look attractive. In fact there is nothing wrong with making yourself look beautiful/handsome, right? But the part where the catch lies is when we are confined by our own or someone else's definition of beauty, anything (including ourselves) that doesn't fit right into the definition loses its value in front of our eyes (or in our minds).

Contrary to popular belief, first impression is not always the last impression. People won't remember what you wear but they will never forget how you made them feel. So you can't judge someone as 'attractive or not' by simply scanning the way they look on the outside. I'm sure there are plenty of people out there who are aware of it but let's not overlook our instinctive human nature of judging others, for the moment.

Now as you might've noticed, no two people are alike in this world. Everyone is unique and beautiful in their own way. Some feel more comfortable in shorts and spaghetti tops, some like wearing dresses and make-up, some like to chill in denims and some like to suit-up in tuxedos. That is what they feel more confident in. Hence feeling comfortable in one's own skin plays a huge role in looking attractive. If you feel confident, you'll look good anyway.

But unfortunately, some people are not comfortable with a particular sense of dressing that others might have. Even if that were the case, I don't understand why girls always have to be the core target of criticism. People usually don't care if a guy or a man is walking around half-naked or if his pants are flying too low while strolling on the road. But somehow, if girls or women happen to step out in "revealing" clothes, they are dead-meat. It is totally understandable that everyone should dress according to the occasion and environment. But for some critics, that is just an excuse.

I don't think I need to mention the things that we have to hear or suffer because of such irrational and inhuman mindsets. We have witnessed too many incidences and too many protests, and even though people have evolved, the change is almost insignificant. The only thing that has changed is time. So it is solely our responsibility to respect all forms of life and also teach our future generations about the same.

Apart from that, there are also some little things that must not be overlooked. Just because a girl likes to wear make-up and put on sparkly dresses, doesn't mean she's fake or being provocative. If her shirt's neck is a little low, her skirt falls a little higher up her knees, or if her shorts are a little shorter than your convenience, does not mean that her body is inviting you to explore it without her consent (she might have different intentions but that is none of our business here). Just because a guy likes flowers, the colour pink, cries, avoids indulging in fights, gets insecure or shy, doesn’t mean that he’s  gay (he might be but that is none of our business here). We are who we are, not what we wear or what we look like.

Beauty comes in all shapes, sizes, colours and forms. We just need a broader mind to accept what Nature has to offer. I was once told that, “Beauty is not just in face. Beauty is in blood.”

So dear reader, go on and tell people what you like or love about them. Tell them how they make you feel (referring to the positive vibes here). Even when you talk behind their backs, it’s good to avoid negative gossip. You’ll see it makes a huge difference. Everyone likes to get compliments. But try to make them more about their personality, instead of their appearance. Smile at yourself when you look into the mirror (would be a little weird in public, though, but that’s your call). Try to see yourself as a whole person, rather than a body part. You are a rare and beautiful soul. Embrace it.