Trust Fall

People are geniuses. They are curious and complicated. They usually gravitate towards the easier ways to live life. They judge others. They want to be loved and valued. They always try to justify their actions and words to make the world see the good in them. But are people really so predictable? Why do I even bother to write about random people like this? Well, read on and you’ll find out.

In case I didn’t mention this before, I am an introvert. I observe and think a lot. I’m still working on socializing with people more often because there was a time when I spoke just around ten words throughout the whole day. But again, the more I try to let people in, the more vulnerable I become. Sometimes, the odds are indeed in my favour. Rest of the times, I simply regret to have done it in the first place. I guess it really depends on who those people are. You surely need to be careful when you pick out the ones you trust.

How do you know that you can trust someone? Do you leave them with your keys and money while they’re at your home? If they rob you blind anyway, you’re going to need a new friend, perhaps? Or maybe you tell them all your secrets and make them promise not to tell on you. If you’re on E-Buzz the next morning, you’re going to need a new friend? You know what? Don’t take my advice.

Most of us know that trust comes only with time, company and hardships. So what else do I need to add here, you might think? Well, I can’t say much about whom you should trust and whom you shouldn’t. You’ll come to see everyone’s true colours and intentions at one point of time, anyway. You see, fake people have an image to maintain. Real people just don’t care. It’s quite a no-brainer, actually. But this isn’t about knowing how to find the right people to trust. This is about trusting the person you’ll have to take 

care of throughout your life i.e. yourself.

I hear this from people too often nowadays. In fact, there are many such folks I’ve come across, who find it hard to deal with trust, especially when it comes to trusting themselves. We can’t blame them for it because people can really be cold sometimes. Just because of how a person or “society” treats them, they grow almost impenetrable to things like faith and affection later. It leaves a scar behind that seemingly haunts them forever.

But dear reader, there is always a way. At least there is a better way to live than drowning in regrets. The first step is to trust yourself. It is the foundation on top of which you build yourself. When you connect to someone in a way unlike others, you get attached to them. With time, you break down your walls for them and let them in. If it’s worth it, take the risk. Tell them how you feel. Don’t spend the whole time wondering what would happen if it doesn’t work out or if it doesn’t last. Even if you get yourself hurt in the process, you’ll grow. You see, life doesn’t get easier. You become stronger.

In the end, you’ll have the bittersweet memories with you. So whether it lasts or not, you win either way. But look out for toxic people. If they stop you from being yourself, don’t help you grow or treat you like an option, nothing should stop you from walking away. You’ll know that when you trust yourself and know what you deserve. It is okay to put yourself first sometimes.

You should always try to learn from your mistakes too. A mistake done more than twice is a decision. You need to believe in yourself if you want to make something happen. Only if you do, you’ll be able to do something productive with your life. Find ways to keep yourself motivated and never lose hope. Talk to yourself nicely, listen to music, walk often, exercise, read books and breathe more. Drink more water too. Hydration helps the body a lot, seriously.

Well, I didn’t expect to end this talk on a note of hydration. But I did say almost everything that needed to be said. You might have your own theories too. After all, people are geniuses. So, go on and explore your life!