Q&A Corner
Q1. What's that thing on your neck?
A. One of my favorite theories is that I was on a vacation in Hawaii and I was so drunk that I tried to tattoo myself but passed out before I could complete it. Hilarious. Some people are curious enough to ask while some pretend that it's not there. Honestly, I don't mind either way. It's pretty simple, I was born with it.
It's interesting to hear what people assume at first though. Some think it's a cool tattoo, some tell me to get rid of it, some think it's a birth-mark, some tell me to keep it and extravaganza. As much as it might be any of those, it's one of the things about me that people tend to notice and remember initially. Not in a negative sense at all, of course. That's how the actual story goes. There's nothing much beyond that.
Q2. Who is Ara?
A. Ara is a name that was gifted to me by someone close to my heart. It actually comes from a constellation in the sky with the same name. This person who gave it to me knows well how much stars mean to me. I was also told that there are several other reasons behind choosing 'Ara' among all the other possibilities. Besides, this person is the only one who calls me by this name and in fact, I like it that way.
Q3. Why does my depression keep coming back even after I get over it?
A. If something keeps coming back, we didn't get over it at all. We need to understand that depression is NOT the problem. So unless we figure out what exactly the problem is, we can't get over it.
For example, when we take medicines, they either suppress the symptoms or they cure the disease entirely.
Getting over depression isn't over until you know the exact reason why you're depressed and check that off the list first. Instead, trying to suppress everything and being happy does only half the job, or maybe less. Sometimes, it makes things worse. That's why it keeps coming back. Give yourself some space and time to breathe and think. Slow progress is still progress.
Q4. Why do I feel uncomfortable talking to him as a friend even after I have moved on from our break-up?
A. On a sunny July morning, one of the smart people who walked the Earth said, "People change, memories don't." T&C apply, of course. Apparently, moving on becomes a piece of cake if you hate that person or never had real feelings in the first place. But if you're still their friend, it turns the cake into a grass pudding - hard to digest and tastes like feet(if it were a real dish).
Thing is, when you get used to someone's love and attention, it gets tricky to go back to the way you used to be before everything happened. But good news is, it is not impossible. One step closer to the reason is that a proper closure and avoiding conversations about the past too often, can change things for the better (considering you both want the same things). Reminiscing old memories is okay, as long as it doesn't put salt on anyone's old wounds.
Q5. How did you survive the darkest phase of your life yet?
A. Okay, for spoilers, the question sounds a lot more morbid than its answer. (lol) I'm gonna stick to the facts and save the drama here.
Three things that basically saved my life were music, writing and friends. Some of my greatest discoveries so far are Foreign Air, Sir Sly, K. Flay and Elliphant. I've heard just one song of each of them but I can't get them out of my system. Music has always been a dangerously good stress-buster which is also why it's been my drug the whole time.
Collaborating with AlphaWord'Z' has been a great experience too. I finally found a place where I could explore the limits of my imagination and learn how dreams inspire. The response from my readers and the exposure to a wider audience gave me a good kick to start off something new. I appreciate everyone involved so much (I know I sound like I just won a Grammy but hey, I mean it and I'm almost done).
Last but never the least, my people. They're the reason I made it this far. 'Coffee To Cocktails' can explain why.
A. One of my favorite theories is that I was on a vacation in Hawaii and I was so drunk that I tried to tattoo myself but passed out before I could complete it. Hilarious. Some people are curious enough to ask while some pretend that it's not there. Honestly, I don't mind either way. It's pretty simple, I was born with it.
It's interesting to hear what people assume at first though. Some think it's a cool tattoo, some tell me to get rid of it, some think it's a birth-mark, some tell me to keep it and extravaganza. As much as it might be any of those, it's one of the things about me that people tend to notice and remember initially. Not in a negative sense at all, of course. That's how the actual story goes. There's nothing much beyond that.
Q2. Who is Ara?
A. Ara is a name that was gifted to me by someone close to my heart. It actually comes from a constellation in the sky with the same name. This person who gave it to me knows well how much stars mean to me. I was also told that there are several other reasons behind choosing 'Ara' among all the other possibilities. Besides, this person is the only one who calls me by this name and in fact, I like it that way.
Q3. Why does my depression keep coming back even after I get over it?
A. If something keeps coming back, we didn't get over it at all. We need to understand that depression is NOT the problem. So unless we figure out what exactly the problem is, we can't get over it.
For example, when we take medicines, they either suppress the symptoms or they cure the disease entirely.
Getting over depression isn't over until you know the exact reason why you're depressed and check that off the list first. Instead, trying to suppress everything and being happy does only half the job, or maybe less. Sometimes, it makes things worse. That's why it keeps coming back. Give yourself some space and time to breathe and think. Slow progress is still progress.
Q4. Why do I feel uncomfortable talking to him as a friend even after I have moved on from our break-up?
A. On a sunny July morning, one of the smart people who walked the Earth said, "People change, memories don't." T&C apply, of course. Apparently, moving on becomes a piece of cake if you hate that person or never had real feelings in the first place. But if you're still their friend, it turns the cake into a grass pudding - hard to digest and tastes like feet(if it were a real dish).
Thing is, when you get used to someone's love and attention, it gets tricky to go back to the way you used to be before everything happened. But good news is, it is not impossible. One step closer to the reason is that a proper closure and avoiding conversations about the past too often, can change things for the better (considering you both want the same things). Reminiscing old memories is okay, as long as it doesn't put salt on anyone's old wounds.
Q5. How did you survive the darkest phase of your life yet?
A. Okay, for spoilers, the question sounds a lot more morbid than its answer. (lol) I'm gonna stick to the facts and save the drama here.
Three things that basically saved my life were music, writing and friends. Some of my greatest discoveries so far are Foreign Air, Sir Sly, K. Flay and Elliphant. I've heard just one song of each of them but I can't get them out of my system. Music has always been a dangerously good stress-buster which is also why it's been my drug the whole time.
Collaborating with AlphaWord'Z' has been a great experience too. I finally found a place where I could explore the limits of my imagination and learn how dreams inspire. The response from my readers and the exposure to a wider audience gave me a good kick to start off something new. I appreciate everyone involved so much (I know I sound like I just won a Grammy but hey, I mean it and I'm almost done).
Last but never the least, my people. They're the reason I made it this far. 'Coffee To Cocktails' can explain why.
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